Love vs. Lack

Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end up having more.
If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.

– Oprah Winfrey

When you think of your life, do you come from a place of lack or a place of love? I try to be grateful and come from a place of love as often as I can. Key word: try. I set a daily intention to help me do this. I try to remind myself of this intention throughout the day, especially when I catch myself walking down the office hall with a zombified expression.

I remember one instance clearly when I first began practicing this. I was on the train during rush hour and there was a woman with 2 kids that sat down across from me. “Ugh,” I thought to myself. “There is nothing worse than being on a crowded train with kids running around, crying and screaming.” (This is pre-pregnancy mind you so my mindset was vastly different.) I’m not proud of myself here, but I used to shoot these women daggers that said “How dare you disturb my train ride with your kids snotting all over the place? Can’t you shut them up? Have you no control, woman?”

This time though, before I had that thought, I distinctly remember coming from a place of love as I looked at her, and my entire perception had shifted. I didn’t feel hatred. I felt compassion. It’s hard what she’s doing and I acknowledged that.

This can be true in acting too. It’s way to easy to focus on the negative things that aren’t happening in your career. But what about the great things in your life that are happening? Come on, they’re there. You may just not recognize them. If you take a moment to focus on what you’re grateful for, what you already have, you may be surprised with more bookings, an awesome new agent or a book deal. Okay, maybe I’m talking about what I want here, but I try to always practice what I preach!



I’ve been thinking a lot about bliss lately. I have a Post-it on my computer where I’ve written ‘Bliss be my guide.’ I just listened to an intriguing podcast from Radiolab titled ‘Bliss.’ The dictionary defines bliss as: noun. supreme happiness; utter joy or contentment. How lovely does that sound?

This picture was taken from the balcony of the B&B I stayed at on my honeymoon. Supreme happiness

Wouldn’t life be amazing if everyday were filled with supreme happiness? I realize this is next to impossible and that sometimes you have to work really, really hard at being happy. I mean, when you don’t have time to do laundry and you’re out of socks and you miss your favorite Zumba class and you haven’t had an audition in a couple of weeks and everything is FALLING APART – utter joy or contentment is pretty far away from you in these moments. I get it. In these moments, I try to take some time just for me and meditate or reflect on what I’m grateful for and it brings me back. (Ok, I’m not trying to get all Oprah on you, but let’s face it. The woman has a point.)

Creating is my bliss – my passion. Writing, producing characters just for me – really being the character. Creating new characters, telling new stories. The most fulfilling work I’ve done are the projects I’ve created for myself.

What’s your bliss?